Guys & Girls. Relationships.
This is a long post, just so you know. So read with patience. Thank you.
Just got back home from.. not clubs k.. from Coffee Bean. Hang out with my friends. He just came back from offshore.
Anyway so went through someone blog & it was about relationship. How men & women are in relationship. Psychological & emotionally.
Everyone has their points of view about both gender. what should be & what shouldn’t be. I’ve talked serious stuff with God knows how many people out there about their personal life, family, financially & relationship. Things that people don’t want to share with anyone. later on below I might tell you things that you will deny but deep down inside you know. Honest raw truth about how we all think & feel after a dreadful breakup. How we all base our past experience to make judgement for the future.
I’ve gone through hell & back again. for those friends that have seen me go through it. It was totally impossible for anyone to came back or i would say it was a miracle. Guess God love me very much & I love myself very much too.
To me, i believe relationship require balance. Love, care, understanding, social life, freedom etc. Where does your priority stand & where do you stand. Are you ready? are you not? what are you looking for? where do you want to go from here?. Those are some of the question that many would have in their mind.
Every master was once a disaster. Everyone was once clingy, naive, foolish, childish or made a total clown of the century of themself. We were honest & sincere. We are human.
I’ll tell you how does it impact psychologically & emotional. How we change to become who we are today. We were clingy, very loving, caring, understanding the best you can ever be for someone you truely love or like. In the end they left you, they don’t appreciate you, they had sex with your best friend, they slept with someone they just met 5 min ago, they go for someone who has more money than you. The heartbreaks session kicks in. The tears, the depression, the denial, you name it. After that session, you move on. You tell yourself “fcuk it” you’re never going to be that way again or treat a person that special way. Cause it hurts. That’s when the mask comes in.
We all stop doing what we do or how we treat someone in the utmost sincere & honest way cause it hurts. So we all decide is best to not give a damn or don’t put to much emotion to it. It discourage you, your mind creates a defense mechanism. We create a wall or we threw our heart into a fridge, lock it & threw the keys.
We change the way we think, we look, we act, we change our life style. Just so it doesn’t resemble or remind us of the past stupidity that we’ve done for someone that we used to love dearly. Some change for the better, some just got worse.
Of course things happen for a reason but the question is, how do we take those reason. How we look at it. Yes it does make us more stronger, better, faster & mature. What you learn & experience can be a double edge sword. Either it brings you above or it pulls you down more without you knowing it, cause of you think or believe what is the best way.
Yes all men & women want their partner to be as hot or handsome as they could be. But what i’ve seen & experience. In the very end of the day. Take away the mask, the money, the fame, the ego, the superficial etc. Is how they make us feel deep down inside. Character, mindset, personality, honest, sincere, understanding. We are all not perfect. But we should strive to be perfect ourself & for the ones that matter. The ones that took you for granted? sorry to say fcuk them (walk away) & thank them (you’re better now cause of them). If you want to be better as a person, as a member of a family, as a friend, in a relationship. “Mix with those that lift you up, not bring you down” Oprah.
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