Clingy - Needy.
Clingy - need. I was once.
Self worth, Price? I was once worth nothing.
Why people take others for granted when they start to be clingy - needy?
Being needy or clingy is normal. why do they feel that way? is cause they are unsure, lack of confidence etc. Is not a dreadful thing. All they need is just positive support & positive influence. They will do just fine.
We ourselves NEED too. we NEED to lean on someone or something. We cling on to it. When things are rough. Mentally or emotionally.
In relationship or even friends. Be there for them when they NEED a shoulder to lean on or to cry on or for whatever it is for that matter. I always believe in support.
If your partner or friend is NEEDY or CLINGY. Be understanding, support them, comfort them. Give them a little push to stand & also a space for them to move on their own. The last thing they need from you is to be taken for granted & being shut away.
Cause don’t forget you also NEED. If someone take you for granted or lower your personal value. Walk away. Last resort, cling on to yourself. Need yourself to be strong.
I cling on to myself & build a fortress. But it doesn’t mean i shut away what I sincerely feel inside.
For me I need to be strong so that I can be there for others & the ones that matter to me. I need to be open minded & understanding so that others wont be afraid to say or show what they really feel inside. Without having fear of sounding or looking like a fool or even being de-valued by me.
No offence. Taking people for granted & de-value people is one lousy mindset.
Just imagine if one day you’re in need or clingy, would you want to get shut away & being de-valued?
Let me tell you one part of my past. I have a friend. He was lying on hospital bed & NEED me to see him. But to me that time, he was of no value. He passed away cause of intestine cancer. I’ve regretted, I took him for granted & all I could say till today I’m sorry.
Word of advice.
“You are great, be great for the right reason. You are not that mighty to de-value anyone cause without them, you are of no value at all. “
I think that being too clingy is not a good thing.. However ppl tend to do so when they are facing problems in life.. =S
YeN said this on October 4, 2008 at 4:34 am